Something happened at the gym yesterday that got me thinking about a line in social behavior that I do not feel I walk gracefully:
I went to the gym after work, and the front desk was empty, so I took it upon myself to scan my card. As I headed to the locker room, a woman who works the front desk approached me and the following encounter ensued:
Woman: Where do you think you're going? (in a friendly tone, not a bitchy one)
I point to the work out area
Woman: Hold up, I need to check you in
Me: But I already did it
Woman: How would you know do that?
Me: Well, it isn't that complicated (point and click...)
We walk back to the front desk
Woman: What's your name?
Woman: Wow, you did it right! I haven't seen you much this week, you're slacking off.
Me: I know, I've been busy this week
At this point, I walk off. I wanted to say, "Well now that you know my name, you have to tell me yours" and continue the conversation a bit more. However, I could not help but feel as though such actions would suggest flirtation. I've been accussed of flirting with girls before, so I am rather conscious as to how my behavior may be interpreted. Nevertheless, all I wanted to do was engage in a friendly conversation, is that really so awful? Am I overreacting or being dramatic? (rhetorical question; do not answer)
How does one know when the line between being friendly and flirting has been crossed? (sorry for using the passive tense) Granted, I doubt she knows I'm gay, but it is possible, so I could've been hesitant for nothing. Then again, it's really awkward when a girl presents interest and I have to inform her that I'm gay. I've never had any problems with this, but it's best avoided. This dilemma represents another grey area that is somewhat unique to homosexuality (the most classic example being who pays on dates b/w two members of the same sex). Often, these areas represent opportunities for creativity, since you're bucking the norm and writing your own rules, but some caution also must be displayed. I'm all about being friendly, but I am not trying to give anyone the wrong idea. Maybe if I walk around with a dick up my ass, things will be more clear?