So recently I've been going through a lot of stuff, stress over grad school, stress at my job (apparently everyone's quitting and now I get to do the job of 2-3 people and get yelled at by all the people that those 2-3 people entail *P.S. no raise.... yeah they suck like a bj with braces), dealing with ex's and the joy's that only they can bring into your life when they feel the need to constantly try to play games with your head.... I dealt with that by telling them to Eff off in no-uncertain terms. However as this time hasn't been the best I've had in recent memories it's actually times like this that make me stop and think.... you know, I'm pretty lucky, I have great friends, a steady job, and I look FABULOUS! However the most important out of all these things is perhaps the friends so I got to thinking on what entails having a REAL friend.... so far I've come up with.
1). Greasy Chinese food and watching Beaches can constitute a productive QT night.
2). They've seen you in ridiculous clothing (I had a weak moment with a Burberry Square cut and matching bucket hat when I was living on the continent....I'm so ashamed) and still allowed you to be seen in public with them
3).They've ever stuck up for you with no gain of their own
4). They will call you out when you're not acting your best and you actually take their comments seriously.
5). When you call THEM out on when they're not operating so smoothly and they take your comments seriously
6). They'll tell you to your face that the guy you're dating/talking to/socializing with, is an ass and you need to not introduce the BGD (Big Gay Drama) into your life, and not wait for the fallout.
7). They'll help you if you don't listen to them and the fallout occurs, and only say "I told you so" once.
8). They've dealt with you when you get embarrassingly drunk.... and still talk to you.
So as bad as life can get at times.... and it can get pretty shitty.... knowing that you have friends around makes it all a little better.